Forget about all the hub-bub over Elizabeth Vargas' paper-thin "20/20" segment that was supposed to provide an in-depth look at the struggles of mothers and their work. Watch "Grey's Anatomy" instead. It's here -- on one of the few TV programs run by a real working mom of a small child -- that you'll get a down-to-earth dissection of contemporary motherhood and the working world, dovetailed by the consequences of those maternal decisions.

And I'm not just talking about the character of Dr. Miranda Bailey, the mother of a baby boy who has spent the past several episodes battling the sexism of her colleagues who think that she should either be all-surgeon or all-mother, nothing in between. Motherhood and women's work choices -- as well as society's response to those choices -- are put under a non-judgmental microscope, particularly during last night's episode.

Take a throw-away conversation in the observation room where Dr. Bailey, Dr. Addison Shepherd and Dr. Callie Torres are watching surgery on a 5-year-old girl who was accidentally run down by the family's SUV driven by the nanny (who's emotionally closer to the girl than the girl's career-oriented parents). Bailey asked uber-successful ob/gyn Shepherd if, before she was divorced from McDreamy, she'd ever thought about having kids. "I wasn't ready," Shepherd said.

Dr. Torres said she loves kids. Wanted a dozen of them.

Then new mom Bailey raised her eyebrows and said, "One's enough, unless you plan to put away your scalpel." (Even though I adore the Bailey character, this is the same argument made by the controversial Linda Hirshman who tells women to have one kid then go back to work, lest they let down their feminist foremothers.)

Later, when speaking again with Shepherd, Bailey said that she'd left work early one day so she could rush home to feed her baby his favorite solid food -- peas -- only to find that he'd changed his favorite food. "Life moves so fast," Shepherd said.