Quick Survival Tips
How are we supposed to have "it all" when most of the time we can't even find it? If all our readers submit their top three tips for managing the chaos of modern motherhood, we will have quite a Survival Guide right here on these pages. Sometimes it takes a village just to keep your head above water. Please share your survival secrets.

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Stop killing yourself trying for "perfection", and be happy with 'good enough'.


To expedite your morning, put sippy cups and "ready-to-go" breakfast items low in the fridge. If your kids can help themselves, you might be able to squeeze in eye makeup!


Keep a nail file in your car. As those manicures seem to go out the window when kids arrive, keep up at red lights.


I label whenever possible, that way anyone that might need to know where something goes (i.e. housecleaning day) doesn't interrupt my cleaning project asking for instructions. Also, we try to do "zone defense" with our kids. Each of us have a room that we're responsible to put away clutter and spot clean each evening during a 10 min. "zone defense" yell.


Repeat after me: "It's a phase. It's a phase."


make the choice or you'll never move on
don't forget to dream
take the best care of yourself so you can give the best care for others


Stop and breathe. When things seem to pile up and the hamster in your mind won't get off the wheel. Stop, close your eyes, and take a deep breathe (or 10 deep breaths). It usually clears my mind and focuses me on the task at hand.


I read a story once about a professor who had students put rocks into a glass until they pronounced it full. "It's full?" he said, and then had them pour in sand. Again, the students said it was full. "It's full?" the professor asked, and handed them a bottle of water. Make time for the most important things, then keep filling in around them.


Don't bother cleaning the house. It is satisfying, but doesn't last long enough to be worth the effort. Invest in a maid service, even if only once a month


Take a deep breath, tackle 1 goal at a time, when it gets tough, say a sentance and then spell out each of the words.