Quick Survival Tips
How are we supposed to have "it all" when most of the time we can't even find it? If all our readers submit their top three tips for managing the chaos of modern motherhood, we will have quite a Survival Guide right here on these pages. Sometimes it takes a village just to keep your head above water. Please share your survival secrets.

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My best tip is based on self preservation instincts. I found a great, inexpensive massage place in my neighborhood. I have a standing appointment for every other Sunday evening. You have to find ways, however small, to treat yourself.


Once a month, fake a sick day or vacay day (if you can spare), drop the kids at daycare and relax. That means no cleaning, no cooking, and absolutely no shopping for the kids or husband. Get your nails done, hit the mall or just stay home and watch daytime TV all day--whatever you do, make it completely for YOU!


Avoid buying anything unless you absolutely love it & plan to keep it forever. Have a wastebasket by the front door and sort the mail, school notices, etc. immediately. Refuse excess bags & packaging from stores that you'll just recycle or throw away. Buy fewer disposable products, and less stuff in general. You won't have to organize or clean it out if you never bought it!


Throw away or donate 5 things every day. Clutter = Chaos.

Very Tired

For $15/hour, I hired a college a college student to run errands and do stuff around the house. She only comes 4 hours a week but it has changed my life. Strawberries are cleaned and sliced and in the fridge, we always have milk, dry cleaning is brought in and picked up and sometimes she even leaves fresh flowers on the nightstand by my bed. Best $60 bucks a week I have ever spent.

Very Tired

Keep tickler folders. One folder for everyday and then one for everymonth. DON'T keep a big, overflowing TO DO file....everything goes in a daily folder - and if it doesn't get done on the assigned day...move it on to the next. Put future paperwork in your monthly tickler folders (invitations, directions, travel docs, whatever....). But make sure you put it in the calendar first....


For anal/neat freak moms: learn to accept the idea that your house will not be clean all the time..try not to stress about cleaning up the toys after every hour of play so you can focus on other things


I used to stay up until 1 or 2 in the morning trying to get work done.   Now I realize that I can't function if I don't at least get 4 or 5 consequtive hours of sleep.  Close your eyes whenever you can.  Sleep is the cure for all mothers of young children.



My husband and I use Google Calendar to put all of the family's activities. We can access it from anywhere and each of us can make changes. I print a copy each Sunday for the upcoming week and post it in the kitchen.


Oh...when you are first dating a guy, live like a slob. They will learn early on to do half if not more of the housework. This worked for me.