Gisele Can Suck It

by Stefanie Wilder-Taylor

 

So I recently became aware of the comments that supermodel Gisele Bundchen made to Harper’s Bazaar UK about breastfeeding: “Some people here think they don’t have to breastfeed, and I think, ‘Are you going to give chemical food to your child, when they are so little?’” And then she went on to say, "There should be a worldwide law, in my opinion, that mothers should breastfeed their babies for six months.” Really, Gisele? Don’t get me started on why you suck. I’m just saying that you of all people shouldn’t be pretending to stand on moral high ground. While we’re deciding on new laws, I personally feel there should be a worldwide law preventing supermodels from shacking up with pregnant women’s boyfriends. I have a feeling Bridget Moynahan will be the first person on the congressional floor to help push that bill through to law.

 

Why do so many women pop out a kid and then suddenly decide they should be able to tell other women what they should or should not be doing? In my first book, Sippy Cups are Not for Chardonnay, I wrote a chapter about my bad experience with attempting to breast feed. For me personally, it was a terrible trauma that entailed nonstop crying on my end and the baby’s, exacerbated my post partum depression and in the end, wasn’t even worth the month (okay three weeks) I endured it.

 

I am approached by a lot of women at various functions (okay, fine, the few – very few- book signings I’ve had) who tell me how relieved they were to read my first book and find out they weren’t alone about breastfeeding becoming a huge ordeal for them. Quite a few of these women told me they quit breastfeeding but were afraid to tell their friends because they’ve been openly judged. Women like Gisele have no idea how many women among us don’t breastfeed but will lie and say they do. Why is that?

sweetkaren1
08.10.10

THANK YOU!!!

I nearly choked when I saw Gisele's obviously well-thought out and empathetic commentary. I did breastfeed and, thankfully, had a good experience with it but I also had to give it up when my maternity leave ended and everything dried up. If this was a law, would I have had to make the decision over whether it was financially more sound for me to go back to work and pay the price to society in terms of fines or jail-time for not breastfeeding or to lose my job and breastfeed? Seeing as, unfortunately, I don't have a multi-million dollar modelling contract to fall back on to support my family, this may have been a tough decision.

I also saw many friends who had troubles with breastfeeding but who are wonderful mothers. What about supply issues? Should a mother stand by and watch her baby lose weight and suffer rather than grow and thrive when she can't provide enough breastmilk rather than offer Gisele's dreaded "chemicals"?

If Gisele feels so strongly about breastfeeding, rather than making people feel bad about a choice that it is their right to make, perhaps she could champion causes that could help all mothers. Like, for example, increased (and potentially subsidized) maternity leave so all mothers can spend more time with their babies in the early stages should they choose, greater insurance coverage for lactation consultants and pre- and post-natal care for mothers and babies, and both online and in-person support groups, chat groups, whatever suits your tastes so Moms can meet, talk, and feel good about their choices.

Stefanie, thanks for making the choice to say something about this! Once again I am happy to find that this site encourages all mothers to make the choices that are right for them and their children.

kilo2085
08.10.10

I TOTALLY AGREE WITH U STEF...I BATTLED PPD, (SOMETIMES I THINK I STILL DO!!) AND WAS MEDICALLY UNABLE TO BREASTFEED MY NOW 7 MONTH OLD SON..I FELT TERRIBLE, I FELT LIKE A BAD MOM, I FELT GUILTY, I FELT EVERY TERRIBLE THING YOU CAN FEEL AS A MOM, UNTIL I STARTED REALIZING THAT IT'S OKAY IF YOU CAN'T...GIZELLE CAN TRULY "SUCK IT"..AND THAT'S PUTTING IT NICELY!! BTW, MY NAME IS STEFANIE TOO!

edgyveggiemama
08.09.10

Geez! Granted, I am also not a supporter of once a woman has a baby she is entitled to be a baby expert, BUT we really should come together and really support a better way of handling breastfeeding in this country. The fact of the matter is that doctors and formula manufacturers have made it easy for moms to formula feed their babies rather than breastfeed. Breastfeeding is not accomplished over night and not even within weeks...it's a relationship that takes time, effort and patience. It's the most natural thing in the world and the most criticized by people who are afraid of boobs! The fact that you had a bad experience is shameful because it should have not been so. With the proper support and willingness, you too would understand how special a relationships with a baby and mother can be while nursing.

cricket5
08.09.10

hahaha - laughing so hard reading this! Totally agree! I tortured (TORTURED!!) myself trying to breastfeed my first and it just wasn't happening. Why can't moms just support eachother? Besides, Gisele, isn't it hard to have an adequate supply when you're not eating?