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How do you handle child-care duties?

 

I was the primary caregiver until my youngest daughter was 2. When I really wanted to focus on growing Stella & Dot, we had to renegotiate that contract. Instead of me being primary and him being backup, we were going to have to be equal — taking kids to doctor appointments or making homework got done or making preschool drop-offs. We had to really work that out. Its not like one person’s the heavy and one person’s the softie. We’re on the same page. We really worked on it; we knew ultimately that marriage is a marathon, not a sprint and both people need to be happy. Are we both thriving in it? Because that’s the only way long term everyone’s going to be well taken care of.

 

What do you do in your “me” time, if you have any?

 

I run and do yoga. That’s how I stay strong and energized. Then I run for my social time, with my girlfriends.

 

What do you think you’re sacrificed as a working mom and what have you gained?

 

We both realized we’ve sacrificed having a third child. I always wanted a very large family and that’s a question my husband and I ask ourselves constantly. I think we realize I don’t want to split my time between more children even though if it were up to me I’d have 50 kids. I’ve gained happiness, passion, excitement, the feeling that I’m thriving. I really feel like I’m doing my calling, and I feel very lucky to say that.

 

In what ways has motherhood surprised you?

 

Everybody knows that they’re going to love their children, but the amount of absolute euphoria I get from my kids still blows me away every day. The amount that I love these little people is awe-inspiring. Every parent thinks their kids are the best thing in the world, but my husband and I always joke, “But we’re right!”

 

What are the lessons you hope your daughters will learn from the choices you’ve made in your life?

 

A real work ethic; the tenacity and focus to believe in yourself and go after the things you want; to not expect anything to be easy or handed to you but to build it; the ability to stay curious about what you’re supposed to be doing and who you are and what makes you happy and your relationships to work to evolve. Life isn’t easy or fixed; it’s an ongoing endeavor that you have to continually be thoughtful about.

 

Would you encourage your daughters to be Stella & Dot stylists?

 

Of course! They already are. They come with me to trunk shows. I’m sure we’re breaking child labor laws, but they do a good job.

 

When your daughters look back on their childhood, what do you hope they’ll remember most?

 

The same thing that I remember about my childhood with my father, that there is a enormous amount of unconditional love and fun and play with their parents, and firm and honest guidance.

 

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Stella & Dot entrepreneur Jessica Herrin was interviewed by Vicki Larson, Around the Watercooler contributor. She is a journalist and single mom.