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Tiger Mom 2.0 - "Wolf Dad"

Hey Tiger Mom, get a load of Wolf Dad.


A 47-year-old Chinese businessman who goes by the moniker “Wolf Dad” has written a book, "My Beida Children," about how he raised successful children using strict parenting methods. And it's reviving the issue of Amy Chua’s controversial “Tiger Mom” memoir and the debate over Chinese parenting styles.


Xiao Baiyou’s book -- which extols the virtues of regular, corporal punishment with a cane -- is “sparking a new round of fervent discussion on child-raising methodologies among anxious Chinese parents,” NBC’s Bo Gu reported [1].


Saying he used “the most traditional methods to educate my children,” Xiao wrote that he believes children should be physically disciplined in front of his or her siblings when children make mistakes. Among his many rules for his children: They can’t open the refrigerator, cannot enjoy air conditioning, are not allowed to visit a friend unless “a written application is filled out, providing information on the friend’s academic grades and their parents’ names and phone numbers,” cannot date and cannot have spending money. Three of Xiao’s children have been admitted to a “prestigious” Chinese university, and the fourth one is still in high school.


In writing about the book, Lisa Belkin [2] observed that journalist Yu Ge had a reaction which she believed would likely be shared by her readers. “He oppresses his children by constant scolding,” Yu wrote [3].


In challenging Xiao’s child-rearing approach, Yu quoted Confucious as saying, “Educate accordingly and individually,” then added: “The importance of teaching is to adapt to the student’s capacity so as to get the best out of him. No doubt, there is some rationality in these two Chinese parenting philosophies [Tiger Mom and Wolf Dad]. Some stones can be cut and polished to become beautiful sculptures, though others just chip even with the lightest tough. Rotten wood cannot be made into beautiful artifacts, nor can a potential Picasso be forced to become an Einstein.” 

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