First Comes Love, Then Comes Marriage, Then Comes the Romance Killers in a Baby Carriage? A new book examining contemporary marriages puts some of the blame for the decline of marital romance on how adults are choosing to parent their offspring, according to a Washington Post parenting blog. 
Blogger Janice D’Arcy said the book, “Marriage Confidential: The Post-Romantic Age of Workhorse Wives, Royal Children, Undersexed Spouses & Rebel Couples Who Are Rewriting the Rules” by Pamela Haag, captivated her not only with its title but with its declarations about the negative impact of having a child-centric marriage.
She quoted Haag as writing, “Parenthood is swallowing marriage . . . Children are at the center of a family now. From a historical perspective it’s a departure. Go back to the 50s and husbands and wives had many different roles – as hostess, decorator, breadwinner, volunteer. They weren’t just parents. Today, parenting is the sole priority . . . It crowds out other functions.” (June 2011)