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Heidi Montag and Haiti.

by Kristy Campbell


Is anyone else in the pop culture world disgusted at the ridiculous self-absorption by Heidi Montag especially when juxtaposed against the images of the orphans in Haiti? In case you missed it:


Tune into Extra and watch Billy Bush interview this gal who at age 23 just completed 10 plastic surgeries in one outing. She told him that she didn’t quite realize how rough it would be and was surprised at how black and blue she was following the procedure.


Flip to CNN. Watch the images of starving, dehydrated, orphaned children in Haiti.


Go back to Billy and continue to listen as the 23-year old lists each procedure: eye brow lift, botox, nose reshaping, jaw restructuring, fat injections in cheeks, boob implants to a DDD, back reshaping with bone/rib reduction, fat injections in other cheeks, and lipo on inner and outer thighs. (I think that was it. I got sidetracked listening to her say that she really wanted larger boobs. She said “H” for Heidi would have been nice.)


Flip to CNN. Watch the images of starving, dehydrated, orphaned children in Haiti.


Between my two girls (ages 9 and 17) and me, body image is definitely a subject in our house. Working as an actress, I’ve always been hyper-sensitive about my weight, my left-over-from-gymnastics thighs, the unevenness of my eyebrows, my pore-size, my B-cup, the errant gray hairs popping out of my head, …BUT, I have to be very careful how I complain about myself. If I say I’m fat or misshapen or lopsided, my girls hear and start looking in the mirror more closely at their bodies. I’ve noticed that when I’m critical about myself, they become critical about themselves. Hearing my skinny, long-legged 9-year old tell me she thinks she has a fat butt reinforced that I have to pluck in private and hide the scale.

Heidi Montag’s story made me cringe not so much at the fact that she had plastic surgery but at the reality that at 23, she must have horrible self-esteem. Wonder what happened to her in her young life? She said she was teased as a child. Weren’t we all? What makes me sad is that I know correcting the outside will never fix what’s wrong on the inside. I wish someone had mentioned this to her.


Both my girls saw her story in People Magazine and I asked them what they thought. They concurred that it seemed rather extreme, especially since she was blonde and thin and pretty and from Laguna Beach to start. I talked to them about how being so obsessed with your looks is a luxury…and how worrying about if your boobs are big enough or your jaw line is round enough is a privilege. I pointed out that sometimes, plastic surgery can dramatically change a person’s life, as in a case of a cleft palate or a reconstructive surgery after breast cancer. Or, when you are older like me and have had a couple of kids, putting your boobs back where they belong or removing the flap of stretched skin can renew a woman’s sense of her self.


But when you are 23 years old and wealthy, you really have two options for your life: focus on yourself or focus on others. I reframed the discussion with the situation in Haiti. I asked if they thought any of those young women in Haiti were worried about their inner-thighs.


I really wish Heidi had put her size 00 butt on a plane to a third-world country and volunteered in a women’s shelter before her surgeries. Unless she is truly shallow, I bet she would have come home and written the check to someone other than Dr. MakeMeGoodlooking. Am I worried that she is setting a bad example for my girls? No. She’d have to be a role model for them to care about what she does. But I am thankful that her poor example gave me an opportunity to discuss with my girls the luxury of being self-absorbed.

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