Last Monday, coming out of the gym, I got a call from the producers of The Today Show . Short and simple, they wanted to know my take on the Octomom's series of 911 calls. There have been a few calls -- but they were particularly interested in my reaction to the one where her son had wandered off and she was screaming “oh God I’m going to kill myself” over and over and over and over until the 911 operator felt compelled to plead with her not to say that for the sake of her other children. The producers wanted to know if I felt her rant was further proof that she is truly unstable ,or if it could have just been pregnancy hormones driving her runaway train of emotions. It seems they were working on a segment about the Octomom’s 911 calls, and they were pretty sure they could count on me to tell it like it is (or like I think it is). Of course I felt that the 911 calls were further proof that she’s not playing with a full deck.
I had to fly into New York that same day arriving at my hotel at 1:00 a.m. I won't bore you with the details of what it took to arrange coverage for my kids just to leave for 24 hours. But it was The Today Show , so I moved mountains and got on the plane. I landed in New York, fell asleep as soon as I hit the pillow,only to wake up at 6:00 a.m. NY time (3:00 a.m. for me), get ready and hit the set. While getting my make-up put on in the dressing room, I met the other mom who would be sharing my segment, Romi from True Mom Confessions . We’d both heard of each other and hit it off immediately. Romi made it fairly clear that she in no way thought Octomom was sane but that she felt that hormones could have heightened her emotions and many moms she’s heard from have done similar things. To which I thought, like what? Have eight babies when you already have six at home?
I, like many people, question this woman, or any woman’s ability to parent fourteen children alone. And if you’re pregnant with eight babies, chances are excellent that they will have a lot of medical issues. Speaking as a mother of a child with “special needs,” I can say that Nadya will need a lot of help. And let's not forget, this is a woman that originally turned down an offer from Angel Care to help her round the clock with her children’s basic needs because it would interfere with the reality show she was sure she would be filming. As the cameras started rolling, I was a predisposed skeptic at best.
Natalie Morales started the segment by playing the 911 call and then asked Romi what she thought. Romi stuck up for her and basically said that many women would have done the same thing in her situation. In theory, I agreed with Romi. If my child was missing, I would be on the phone with 911 faster than you can say Sippy Cups Are Not For Chardonnay  (okay, shameless book plug). But, Nadya is not “other moms” she is Octomom. She is a person who has gone to court to get a large monetary settlement for a “back injury,” and since then lived off of the system and then spent good money to get impregnated with what turned out to be eight more kids. Since then she enlisted the help of the biggest publicists who would work pro-bono, sold her story to the outlets that would offer the most money and is now selling videos of her birth. She is pimping her children, herself, her story. Nadya is all about Nadya.
I responded by saying that I have lost a child before in a bookstore and I didn’t lay on the floor and repeat I’m going to kill myself a million times. I made sure the manager locked the front door and then while having a silent heart attack, went to every aisle until I found her and then broke down in tears. That doesn’t mean that I think another mom should handle it the same way. That doesn’t mean I think I’m a better parent than everyone else. I don’t think that at all. But then Romi made the point that a lot of women think thoughts like “they want to leave their kids home with the dog and leave the house” but that thinking those thoughts doesn’t make them a bad parent. I agree with her. Thinking them doesn’t. I believe that if the police were in our heads we’d all be arrested but the police are not in our heads so they can’t arrest you unless you act on those thoughts. Nadya may have had the thought (and her mother backs this up) that she’d like to have a ton of kids despite having no means of support or living space. Acting on that thought is what makes her culpable. I don’t give a rat’s ass about Octomom but I do now care deeply about what will happen to all of her kids. She made a grave mistake having all of those children. I don’t apologize for my harsh opinion even though I’ve already gotten a lot of flak from Octomom sympathizers for it. And if you’re one of those soft-hearted people, all I can tell you is, hey, The Today Show  picked me because I'm always gonna keep it real.
Watch the segment .