Dignifying Infidelity.

by Leslie Morgan Steiner


I adore Sandra Bullock. Loved the movie The Blind Side, am entranced by her baby love for adopted son Louis, admire her as a generous-spirited, cool-headed career woman who doesn’t indulge in the all-too-common Hollywood games of being too thin, too vain, or overly papparazzi-obsessed.


But when People Magazine dropped through my mail slot Friday, I was stunned: Sandra Bullock is People’s Woman of the Year?


Really? What for?


Then my beloved Washington Post’s gossip column, The Reliable Source, named Elizabeth Edwards its Person of the Year.


Again – yes, Elizabeth was amazing – but the most amazing person of the year?


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Bullock and Edwards boast significant personal and professional accomplishments. But these achievements – Bullock’s Oscar nomination for The Blind Side, her role as a single mom, Edward’s two best-selling books and cancer fights – do not top Hillary Clinton’s Secretary of State triumphs, Nobel Laureate Wangari Maathai’s environmental battles, or the ceaseless devotion showed to America’s five million abused women by Lynn Rosenthal, President Obama’s first advisor on preventing violence against women.


"I’d rather see these women scream and rant and rage, and show the world (and men in particular) how devastating infidelity is." Perhaps they did-- just not in view of the media. Particularly for Elizabeth Edwards, who had two young children to be concerned about, no good comes from looking like a "woman scorned" in the national news. But I agree with your general point that someone should not be woman of the year by virtue of handling one personal crisis in a superficially "graceful" manner.