Your Husband Needs This Book!

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My friend Sharon has always been a tad more practical than most when it comes to love and marriage. While I was trying to figure out how intoxicating a guy smelled on our first date, Sharon was asking HER first dates how they felt about sharing breadwinning and childcare duties 50/50. Along the way, Sharon logged 16 years at Goldman, Sachs, becoming one of the few female managing directors on the West Coast. She also met Steve, who thought a 50/50 split sounding dreamy too; they married and have two children together. Now Sharon (and co-author Joanna Strober) are sharing their tactics with the world in their new book Getting to 50/50: How Working Couples Can Have It All By Sharing It All.

 

To working moms like me who struggle with getting our husbands to empty the dishwasher occasionally, this 50/50 message (and the step-by-step how- to instructions) are invaluable. But Meers and Strober’s message is particularly relevant to all moms AND dads in today’s economic times, when the practicality of a dual-income household seems clear no matter your age, marital status, or tax bracket. Sharon and Joanna use a mix of personal stories, a survey of over 1,000 working moms, and the latest government and social science research to show that sharing financial and childcare responsibilities translates to happier, better-adjusted wives who feel less guilty; more involved dads; and thriving children. One of the biggest obstacles to 50/50 splits? The stubborn idea that a stay-at-home wife is a status symbol proving how successful a man is at work. Puh-leaze!

westchestermom
03.16.09

I will reserve this book at the library, but I find that my house is more balanced because we were older when we got married, and we both kept demanding full time jobs that require us to work equal amounts of time outside of the home. My husband was already living on his own for 16 years and I never had the gas turned on in my apt, so I never cooked. We never fell into the traditional roles because of the age we married, and the fact that I have to travel so much for my job. I often travel for a full week because it is overseas and I do not have to leave lists, prepare food in advance etc. I find that my friends are amazed that my husband is able to do everything. I always tell them that they probably don't give their husbands a chance to do some things in the house. I know in my house that my husband cleans the kitchen etc. because I am not the expert in this area. I think a lot of men would pitch in more if women stopped analyzing and criticizing the house work they do around the house.