Working Mom True or False Quiz.
by Denise Berger
I love to quote Madeleine Albright: “There is a special place in hell for women who don’t help other women.” How often do you find that you’ve been undermined… by someone of the same gender?! What happened to sisterhood… traveling pants… friendship… trust… mutual respect… camaraderie…? Sometimes we are our own worst barrier on the roads to success and in creating a substantive change in the workplace... and worse yet, often we don’t even realize it. We undermine women’s progress by often creating drama (you know the type about which I speak) or by lacking emotional restraint to negotiate successfully without “wigging out” when frustration hits a peak.
And, about the dichotomy between working and non-working moms, book by our own Leslie Morgan Steiner, Mommy Wars: Stay-at-Home and Career Moms Face Off on Their Choices, Their Lives, Their Families, is quite intriguing and baffling. True or false: Haven’t we all gotten past inflicting judgment of each other about the decision to work or stay home? Wasn’t that a thing of the 80s? Twenty years later we surely have evolved and are in fact supportive of each other. Are we faking it? Leslie believes: “What I know for certain, because I see it almost every day from each side of the battlefield, is that the two groups misunderstand and envy each other in the corrosive, fake-smiling way we women have perfected over the eons.” Wow! I have not experienced this divisiveness, honestly, in the 20 years that I have been working, but if there are pockets of this tension out there, when will we figure out that there are many other battles to fight for women to gain parity beyond whether you stay-at-work or stay-at-home? Don’t we all seek the same level of respect at the end of the day? We all want acknowledgement for our hard work: our logistics management; our tireless and endless supervision and organization of the household or the practice or the team; our thoughtful and complex decision making which affect others’ lives-be they children, employees, pets or all of the above. When you get right down to it, we are all CEOs! We ought to be giving each other pats on the back at this point, if not getting the big bucks!