|Leslie Morgan Steiner is the editor of the best-selling anthology Mommy Wars and the brand new memoir Crazy Love. Steiner is a frequent guest on the Today Show, MSNBC, and regularly contributes to The New York Times, Newsweek and Vanity Fair. She lives with her husband and 3 kids in Washington, DC. In this column, she will offer her Two Cents on issues relating to modern motherhood.|
I loooooved being a mom when my kids were 10 and under.
I was the unrivaled hero in their lives. My middle daughter once presented me with a crayon drawing scribbled with “There are many pritty things in life, but you are the prittiest of all.” My youngest daughter asked me to marry her at Cinderella’s castle in Disney World. When he was six, my son asked me to drive him to and from college so that he could keep on living at home, with me, forever.
Ah, the sweetness of early motherhood!
Last week, my take on young girls, high heels, and bikinis generated a lot of dialogue - ok, mostly disagreement - from my fellow moms. So it seems worth it to dig into this topic again.
Here’s a sampling of what other moms wrote:
“Call me a mommy buzz kill, but I am way DOWN with mini-heels (I'm looking at you, Suri Cruise...)”
Does letting your daughter wear a bikini increase her risk of becoming anorexic or bulimic?
If your daughter wears high heels, does that means she’s on the path to sluttiness?
As a mother of two daughters, and a former girl myself, I think these questions about apparel are absurd. Issues facing girls today about sexuality and body image are far more complex than how much material one’s bathing suit contains, and whether your shoe has an extra piece of leather under its heel.
Women’s affect on men has long been a half-hearted joke. You meet a boy or man raised with lots of sisters, and you can just TELL. Little things like he doesn’t freak over a box of tampons in the bathroom. Big things like he’s a good listener and knows exactly when to put a hand on your shoulder (and not on your thigh).
Big news in New York these days: disgraced politicians Eliot Spitzer and Anthony Weiner are both running for political office again. Spitzer, who was New York’s attorney general and governor, is pursuing city comptroller. Weiner, a former New York Congressman, is making a play for mayor.
I barely need to add a syllable to Slate’s recent, brilliant article by 30-something dad of two, Peter Mountford. With the perspective of a stay-at-home dad who can barely leave his house with his kids without being called a hero, Mountford captures the agonies of our culture’s double standards for moms, better than almost any woman, academic, or work-life expert I know.
Six years ago, when my body mutinied against the rigors of Stairmaster and daily jogging, I took up yoga. I quickly came to love the inner peace and physical flexibility it gave me. Since then I have taken roughly 900 yoga classes (not that I’m bragging…well ok, yes, maybe I am).
I have one brother, a kind and unselfish man who lives 3,000 miles away from me. When our mother died three years ago, the money she had carefully put away for us was divided equally among her children.
She had always been clear that in our family, despite her children’s varying academic and athletic talents, combined with our unique abilities to get into and out of trouble, there were no favorites. Mom loved us, and divided her money among us, in equal measure.
My heart breaks for Nigella Lawson.
As most people with a TV, newspaper, or Internet access know, three weeks ago London bystanders captured pictures of the celebrity chef, author, and mother of two sitting on an outdoor restaurant patio, being choked by her uber-wealthy husband Charles Saatchi, co-founder of one of the world’s most successful advertising agencies.
It is a simple idea: that women in leadership positions will result in more just treatment of women everywhere. Many problems facing women in our society stem, at least in part, from the fact that for centuries the people who have run our governments, our armed forces, our companies, our world, have been men - many who are unaware of, or insensitive to, women’s needs.