"I had this dream that when I had my children I was just going to want to be with them, and I wouldn't want to work. And that was sort of this ideal, in a way, based on nothing, because my mom always worked. I had this dream that somehow I'd be so fulfilled, and I wouldn't need to work. I bought into this ideal that one should just stay home and be with one's children, that that should be enough.
It's taken me a really long time to embrace my ambition and to embrace my need to express myself and to accept it in a loving way as part of who I am instead of putting myself down for it. While I was home a great deal, I was working sometimes, and I always had a lot of guilt about that. I gave myself an incredibly hard time about work.
And if there's anything I wish I could look back on and change about my life, it's that I wish I hadn't given myself such a hard time."
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“It’s challenging. It’s kind of a ‘one day at a time’ thing, to tell you the truth. It’s actually become harder as the years have gone by, rather than easier, probably because I see the time slipping by. My daughter has only two more years at home. You’re like, ‘Should I be here, or should I be there?’ You’re constantly asking yourself, ‘Have I done the right thing or have I done the wrong thing?’ And what I always come back to is I know it’s right because I don’t think I would be here if it wasn’t, and I don’t think it would be as much of a success if it wasn’t the right thing . . . But everyone in America has trouble balancing, you know? You not only have to be successful, you have to be a good mother. You have to be a good sister. You have to be a good friend. And if you’re a man, you have to be strong but you have to be vulnerable. You have to be able to bring home the money, and you don’t want to take money from your wife. But what if it doesn’t work out that way? It’s such a balancing act for everybody. Many people have to work two jobs so they’re never home with their kids at all. So when I’m not working, I’m home with them all the time.”
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