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by Christie Mellor

 

My son flew to Paris a few days ago, courtesy of his grandfather and college savings. The program where he was signed up to study French sounded professional and organized, but suddenly, in the days leading up to the fourth of July— his departure date—we couldn’t reach anyone to get any information about his host family. Information he was supposed to have received at least a week before his departure. At first I was pretty relaxed about the whole thing; it was just one final detail in the planning of the trip. But as we inched toward his departure, there was still no word. No phone call. No messages. No replies to my increasingly worried-sounding e-mails to the language school. No one answering the phone in Stockholm when I called at 1 a.m. assuming someone would be in the office by 10 a.m. Sweden-time. My son had no idea where he was going to stay. I was beginning to think awful thoughts about the whole thing being some kind of scam; perhaps there was no school at all, and the whole website—the nice people in the Seattle office, the forms I filled out, the brochures showing happy international students tramping about Beijing, Japan, and France…everything—had been a big set-up to part unsuspecting Francophiles from their money.

 

We had been assured that someone would be at the Paris airport, holding up a big sign with my son’s name on it. And we did, after all, have a pretty solid back-up system; he was not only traveling on the same flight as our good friends, he’s got cousins, aunts and uncles who live in and around Paris. If worse came to worse and no one was actually there to meet him at the airport, he could stay the night with our friends, or call his cousin. So, fingers crossed, we sent him off to catch his plane, having no idea where he was going to be sleeping after a long transatlantic flight. It sounded like just the kind of adventure a 17 year-old should be having.

 

So. He arrived in Paris. Apparently no one from the school was there holding a big sign with his name on it and ready to whisk him away to his happy host family. Apparently he ended up spending the night with our good friends on their barge. On the Seine. In Paris. Not exactly a tragic turn of events. And apparently everything got sorted out the next morning when he went to his first day of French school. We didn’t know any of this until a full 24-hours after he left, and my husband and I spent the time worrying, oh, just a little: but honestly, in the big picture? A minor glitch. It’s good practice for all of us, seeing as how I’m not planning on getting an apartment near my son’s dorm when he goes away to college in a year. So, he’s six thousand miles away and we have no idea how where he is most of the time and we can’t reach for most of the day? Deep breath. Isn’t this what we’ve supposedly been preparing for? His eventual adulthood?

 

ethan max
04.02.13

I'm in a community surrounded by over-protective parents, so any new opportunity to encourage people to give their kids the tools for independence and growth seems like a good one to me. Talking about Free Range Kids has opened up lots of great conversations with friends and neighbors.

cjstaub
07.15.09

Could you post the names of your two earlier books, because I don't think I heard about them and I loved reading Free Range Kids. Sadly, I'm in a community surrounded by over-protective parents, so any new opportunity to encourage people to give their kids the tools for independence and growth seems like a good one to me. Talking about Free Range Kids has opened up lots of great conversations with friends and neighbors.

suepc1
07.15.09

I totally agree! Just yesterday, at the pool with my kids, I witnessed swimming lessons for 2 brothers, maybe ages 4 and 1?? The mother COULD NOT "cut the cord"! The instructors kept moving the kids down further into the pool because Mom, fully immersed in the water, kept criticizing and commenting on every move the kids made!
Let it go...you paid for professional swim lessons WHY? Kids don't need us to hover over them every waking second!