It's Not Fair.

by Elizabeth Horn

 

"It's not fair."

 

What normal 42 year old stamps their emotional foot while their husband and kids are sleeping, and, she's getting ready for work?

 

As much as I hate to admit it, that was me for a couple of years.

 

My husband is a teacher, and, my kids are in school, so, there are days during the school year, and, all summer where I am the only one who has to "get up and go".

 

Though I mostly kept it to myself, it was just frustrating that everyone in the family got to enjoy a more leisurely schedule, but, nothing about my daily routine changed.

 

Somewhere along the line, I got over it, and, decided to adjust my idea of a "vacation". Since I take the kids to school in the mornings, I have often stopped 2 or 3 places before I ever get to work.

 

On the days I'm the only one in the house who has to get up, I might use the time I would normally spend driving kids to school, to sleep in a little, and, enjoy driving straight to work, or, I might stop and treat myself to breakfast.

 

Though my free wheeling college-aged self would cringe if she knew this was what "vacation" had come to mean to me, I have actually come to look forward to the change of pace.

 

I try to take a vacation day from my job if there's something special going on, but, there's only so many days you can take off "just because", if you want to have vacation time left for a summer trip, or, the holidays.

 

I realize how fortunate I am to have paid vacation time, and, that my husband is a teacher, and, he can be off when the kids are out of school. However, sometimes it's hard to be the only one to miss the fun, and, have to answer, But, why do you have to go to work today?"

 

In the end, though, going to work in a timely manner, and, on a regular basis is just what I'm supposed to do, it's my job. If nothing else, I hope that I am setting a good example for my children, and, that in some way, I will positively influence their future work ethic.

alicemcd26
04.25.08

This article totally spoke to me. I just came back to work after having my first child and am also married to a teacher. Totally stomped my foot this morning!

ThisFullHouse
09.07.07

Great article. Paid vacation time must be nice - why don't you buy me a cup of coffee and we can talk about it ;o)

MidwesternMommy
09.05.07

The schedule works for me too. I always thought it was kids that that needed the stability of a schedule, but as it turns out, I do too.

GrrrlfriendJess
09.05.07

That would be hard! I have a hard enough time leaving the house to go to the wireless cafe when my husband and son are at home doing fun stuff together.

awholelotofnothing
09.04.07

How true! We all need a real vacation, we just really don't know what that is until we take it.