What's On Your Life List?

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There are many things this fall that I’m obsessed with: a Chloè leather jacket that is way out of my price range, the novel that I’m working on, and the new show Tell Me You Love Me on HBO, to name a few. But the thing that has absolutely overtaken me lately is the idea of a life list. Now, in case you don’t know what I’m talking about, it’s not because you don’t know what I’m talking about. If you don’t know what I’m talking about, then it’s just because you don’t know that “life list” is now the official term for the list of all the things you would like to do during your life. A/k/a Things I Want To Do Before I Die.

 


Let me explain how my obsession with this came to pass. Since my daughter started kindergarten, I’ve begun to realize that a certain chapter of my life is rapidly coming to a close. This chapter, if it were in my autobiography, would be called, “The Time When My Kids Were Little and My Life Revolved Completely Around Them.” Now, it hasn’t closed yet, of course. My son is still only three (actually, he turned three today – Happy Birthday, Davis!), and Harper is only five, but still, I can see the writing on the wall. In just a few more years, they’ll both be in school full time, and my days will once again be my own. They won’t need me to do everything for them anymore, they won’t rely on me so completely for every little task. It’s natural, and healthy, I know, but when I contemplate the start of that next chapter (which I’m tentatively going to call “Now What??”), I do find myself getting anxious about what I’m going to do with myself. Yes, there’s work. Of course. I could throw myself into my career, I could churn out books in record amounts of time, I could explore other opportunities, like writing for tv, or writing screenplays. And maybe I’ll do those things. But maybe there are other things that I could too, too. Because really, where is it written that once you become a mother, you’re no longer allowed to achieve anything outside of your children or your career? Then, right around the time that I started thinking about all of this, I just happened to come across an article in the New York Times about the Life List Phenomenon (see the Amazon.com reference, below). And just like that, my obsession was born.

 

 

Now, if you’re lazy, or not particularly creative, then, as with all things these days, you could go out and buy a life list that someone else has already put together for you. Do a quick search on Amazon.com for “before you die,” and you’ll find scads of books with titles like, 2001 Things to Do Before You Die, 1001 Paintings You Must See Before You Die, and even 101 Things to Buy Before You Die. But in my opinion, this is cheating, and it also takes half the fun out of it. Of course, I suppose one could argue that actually, the fun is in going to do (or see, or buy) the things on the list, and so it doesn’t really matter if the list was made by you or by some random stranger who has never met you and has absolutely no idea what is important to you. And yes, if you want to take the narrow view, then I guess I could agree with that. But for me, I personally think that much of the fun lies in actually making the list itself.

 

skampie
11.14.07

There is an excellent site for tracking your life list

www.42things.com

I've had my list up there for a couple years now and it's so satisfying when you get to click the "I've done this button". Also the great thing about this site is that others can help you on your quest of things and offer encouragement.

acecchini
10.20.07

Between my son being born in 1993 and my husband having brain tumor treatment in 1994, living the proverbial Wonder Woman life has been all I have known. As my son becomes a wonderful teenager (no, I'm not rolling my eyes!), I have found a new dimension to giving to others through volunteering. Yes, finding time is difficult and at times impossible. Yes, sometimes my son does it with me. Yes, it has given a new quality and meaning to my life that no hot bubble bath can rival. Talk about mutitasking! I recharge myself and others at the same time!

PaLuMa0268
10.10.07

My manager had us put together our list, but said it needed to be 100 things. I thought it would be challenging, but coming up with 100 things to do before I die is harder than I thought.

justice fergie
10.09.07

love that!

i'm going to start putting together my list too...