Cashmere Mafia Misfire.

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Scene 1:
A mom decided to camp out in her hall closet in order to conduct a business call while her two, grade school-aged kids were running about the house, loudly shouting her name.

 


Scene 2:
After her child care arrangements fell through – via a frantic phone call from her soon-to-be ex-nanny while she was in the middle of a presentation to a group of clients – the mom had to continue the presentation via conference call from her office as she bribed her children (who were running about the room, loudly shouting) into silence. “Mommy is having a very difficult day trying not to lose it,” she said, promising ice cream to the kid who drew the best picture of “Mommy’s head exploding.”

 


Scene 3:
The same mom later told her group of three career-oriented,

Manhattan gals, “That whole having it all thing, I think it’s a crock.”

 

These scenes that played out in the first episodes of ABC’s new dramedy “Cashmere Mafia” were illustrative examples of the difficult realities facing moms who work at high stress, high level jobs. The character Zoë Burden (Frances O’Connor), an investment banker, serves as the show’s everywoman/everymom . . . only she makes oodles of money and has a BlackBerry surgically attached to her left hand. But, for every good Zoë Burden scene like the ones described above, there were some ugly ones that erected a veritable Berlin Wall between moms who work outside the house and moms who are at-home with their kids. These included:

 

The demonization of an uber-Type-A at-home mom (Krista Allen) who had scheduled playdates for her children for every day until the end of time, who fed her kids tofu stir-fry, who publicly chastised Zoë by announcing that she “never” sees her at school drop-off, who eagerly volunteered to chaperone a school trip (Zoë forgot there even was a trip), and who took Zoë’s kids to a Build-a-Bear-type store where they made a “working mom” bear complete with a business suit, pearls, a Bluetooth device, a planner and who, when her paw was pushed, said in a slightly annoyed voice, “I can’t talk now, I’m on a conference call.” Oh, and the “Cashmere Mafia” writers then had Allen’s sexy at-home mom hit on Zoë’s husband Eric (Julian Ovenden), making the overture while arguing that since Zoë constantly works late, as does her own husband, that perhaps she and Eric could take advantage of the situation.

 

The piece de resistance was a mini-speech delivered by hotel executive, Juliet Draper (Miranda Otto) – who’s in a troubled marriage and whose snarky teenaged daughter seemingly wants nothing to do with her almost too-expertly-coiffed mother – who said of Zoë’s dust-up with the unrealistically perfect at-home mom: “It’s the classic mommy wars. We make stay-at-homes feel inferior for being throw-backs who live off their spouses. They make us feel guilty for not eliminating everything from our lives but our children.”

 

Ouch.

 

jen_isis
01.24.08

I watched this show for the first time last night and what a disappointment it was. I was offended by the "lesbian bridal shower" scene where an actress actually uttered the line "If you decide to have kids, where will you get sperm?" to a newly dating couple. Not in a hundred thousand years would that happen.

What I disliked most about the show was its utter predictability. Every single scene was predictable, and I could tell you now what will happen in the next episode. It's such a pale imitation of Sex in the city that it's downright embarrassing. Those characters (except maybe Sam) were fully drawn and believable. Cashmere Mafia is a hollow carboard copy.

MichiganMom (not verified)
01.23.08

I am in total agreement with the post from staceyg6685! While I understand that Cashmere Mafia is a little over the top, I LOVE it. I'm a working mom and before I had kids, my career was my main focus. I can identify with the characters in some situations. But what I love about the show mostly? It makes me laugh. Come on ladies, lighten up a little. I never saw anything that said this show was for anything but entertainment purposes only!

KB1971
01.17.08

Even though the show does not represent all working women, it does, I'm sure capture some percentage of working mothers out there today. I myself have a hard time not resenting the show, but also find it hard that any show would be exactly like my complex life. My resentment came with the realization that these women don't have to work. I on the other hand do. Not a single mother, but as close as you can get. My husband and I work opposite shifts. And yes I make a boat load more than he does. And yes again, we both have to work to support our family. I just remind myself that you have to take it w/ a grain of salt. Nothing is going to even compare to what the "real" working (away from home) mothers have to put up with.

NoApologyMom
01.16.08

Totally agree! I try so hard, daily, to make people realize that single motherhood is as good, if not better, than the traditional family. What pissed me off about the show is that no one mentioned the classic irony that its ok to be paid to watch someone else's children but not your own. When is it ever ok for a man or woman to work insane hours??? And who the heck has time for an impromptu martini fest on a work night? A show with high-powered, fashionable women CHANGING the corporate mindset and DEMANDING flex working arrangements would be so welcome to a lot of us.

AmyF
01.16.08

I thought it made working moms look bad and made it seem like if you want a full-time job, you have to work in an environment where they pretend that children don't exist.

I didn't like that that one woman's fiance dumped her when she got the job. But I did see that coming. My husband would have been glad that at least one of us got promoted. More money for me is more money for him.

You just have to take it for what it is....entertainment. I hardly think Desperate Housewives is meant to educate and enlighten anyone.

Seems like a lot of tv shows and movies overdo characters as if the audience won't get it if they don't. I saw Nanny Diaries over the weekend. The rich mom was over the top bitchy and the sweet Nanny was over the top doormat.

AmyF
www.sofiabean.com

girlmogul
01.16.08

So many things to be upset about in this show - like the fact that Mia's character did some really underhanded things, Juliet excuses her husband's cheating by saying "men give up to be with us... We're as far from a wife as they ever thought they would have..." Ouch!
How about the man who is happy that he doesn't have to be the sole financial support of his family? Or that might be proud of his wife's accomplishments.
Still - it's a good looking show.
Andrea - www.girlmogul.com

nottoday
01.15.08

Are you kidding me? It's a TV show, seems to me that all of you that take it to seriously are the ones who have a problem and not the writers or the rest of us who enjoy it. It's TV, if you don't like it turn it off! End of problem.

ladyo
01.15.08

I was actually enjoying the show until...

I'm a single mother who works full time in advertising. Not only was my character not represented, but it was completely sh*&&t on. During her rant after hearing that her husband was cheating on her, one of the characters says she is staying because she doesn't want to be "a single mother, the third wheel, (and three other awful descriptors). Way to make us fierce single moms feel like we're considered the bottom of the barrel!

queenbee88
01.15.08

As I watched this show and that 'mommywars' scene I too became turned off and thought, I MUST blog about this. Only to be so irritated by the whole show that I didn't want to blog about it give it more press. It's incredibly sad how they created those lines and characters. It just feeds the misconceptions and stereotypes.

An aside, I'm a work at home mother who has a generous MIL. She took my daughter for the week so I could work and possibly relax a bit. Her husband asked this question- "What will she do all week without the child." My work is continuously lost in translation it seems.

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selfmademom
01.15.08

I totally blogged about this and had the same issues- what a drag this show is. If I were those actors, I'd be embarassed to read the lines!
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