by Sara Fisher (Self Made Mom)
I’ve been out of the workforce and a stay-at-home mom for six weeks now and I’m still getting asked the inevitable question: Why did you decide to quit your job?
It’s a good question, for sure, but one that’s nearly impossible to answer in one sentence to a perfect stranger. Because I wanted to spend more time with my son. Yes, that was part of it. Because I was sick of the rat race of work. Yes, that too. Because my family needed me more at home than work needed me at work. Because I was sick of dealing with child care issues.
Yes, all of the above. Thing is, there is not one reason I decided to leave the workforce. I don’t think there’s ever just one reason you decide to turn in the towel on 10 years of hard work and a master’s degree. In fact, I don’t know one part of motherhood where there aren’t 52 zillion reasons for what we decide to do.
The only backlash of the “why did you quit your job?” question is the question that inevitably follows: “what are you going to do now?”
Why do people assume that because I decided to quit my job, I’m immediately going to jump into the next gig?
Just to clear the air on that question, I’m happily NOT going to find a new job immediately. I’m not going to update my resume just yet. Instead, I’m just going to relax. That’s right. I’m going to do a big fat nothing for now.
Because quitting my job was one of the hardest decisions I’ve ever made, I don’t feel the need to rush into something else. I said part of my reasoning was because I want to spend more time with my son, so that’s what I’m going to do. I’m going to attend all of those mommy-and-me classes I missed last fall. I’m going to make cookies on a random Thursday afternoon. I’m going to work out more and try to take things a little slower.
Because now I’m not doing the work thing, just the “mom” thing.