Parenting Do-Overs

And remember the plastics scare a few years back, when everyone was checking their Tupperware and their baby bottles for 3s, 6s, and those awful, endocrine-disrupting 7s?  My daughter was already well on her way to BPA-induced early puberty by the time I switched to all glass containers and water bottles.

When I was first starting out in this parenting business, there was just so much unsolicited advice and so many books and so many experts telling me to do this or do that, it seemed overwhelming.  I distinctly remember making the decision to just tune it all out, and to go with my gut.  

There were some things I did right - we never let our kids sleep in our bed, but some of my friends have twelve year-olds still hogging the mattress every night - and there are some things that, I guess, managed to break through the noise.  For example, I remember a teacher of a mommy and me class telling me, when my daughter was six months old, to make it a habit of talking to your kids at the same time every day, because they’ll stick with it out of, well, habit.  I did that, and eleven years later, my daughter and I still have great, deep conversations at bedtime. 

But at the same time, now that my kids are older, I’m finding myself wishing for do-overs almost daily.  I didn’t read enough to my son when he was little, and now I can’t ever get him to pick up a book.  Do-over!