Report: Kids Want Parents to Chill Out.

The president of the Families and Work Institute says in the current issue of The American Psychoanalyst that a study she conducted of children in grades 3 through 12 found that, when asked their one wish for their parents’ work lives, she expected they’d wish their parents would spend more time with them. “Only 10 percent of children made that wish about their mothers and 15.5 percent about their fathers,” wrote Ellen Galinsky, president of the Families and Work Institute. “Most children wished that their mothers (34 percent) and their fathers (27.5 percent) would be less stressed and tired.”

When asked to rate their parents on a dozen different child rearing criterion, Galinksy said she “found no differences in the assessment given by children who have employed mothers (both full- and part-time) and those with mothers at home.”


In the same issue of The American Psychoanalyst, which dedicated a special section to work and family, the director of the Pacella Parent Child Center wrote that there’s no one-size-fits-all approach to parenting and work. “What we have learned throughout the years is that some women are ‘better’ moms because they are home full-time and others are ‘better’ moms because they do work full-time,” wrote Leon Hoffman. “All too often, motherhood and advancement in the workforce outside the home seem to women to be two mutually exclusive. Each woman needs to find a balance that works for her and her family.” (April 2008)