Good Enough

And yet, for those of us with kids who don’t love something, or who aren't naturally gifted at something, it’s troubling, especially as they begin to move into the middle school years, when everyone else seems to have settled on a “thing.”  

Sometimes, when my neuroticism gets the better of me, I think that maybe I should just make my daughter pick ice skating or theater or basketball, and let that be her thing.  And sometimes, when I’m in a more rational mood, I feel like I should just let her keep exploring, and hope that, as she gets older, she’ll find the thing she loves to do above all else.  But as we all know, it’s hard not to compare your kid to others, and it’s even harder to not get caught up in the anxiety of what everyone else is doing.  

But then I remind myself of what I used to tell parents years ago, when I worked as a college counselor:  It’s not about the destination, it’s about the journey.  And the truth is, if colleges were to suddenly declare that that none of it mattered, then I wonder how many of us would still schlep our kids out to Vegas for weekend tournaments, or get up at five am to take them to pre-school workouts.  And so, as hard as it is, I think I need to take my own advice.  I need to stop worrying about outcomes, let my daughter enjoy her journey, and have faith that she’ll still get to where ever it is she’s meant to go.

 

Originally published on ModernMom.com